There comes a time where you reach a point in your life and you wonder where you went wrong. How did you get here? And will you ever be able to make things right again?

I just got back a few weeks ago from a two week bike trip from Serbia to Istanbul and one of the most important things I learned is how small we are. There is nothing like standing at the top of a mountain overlooking a city with 17 million people and experiencing this sense of utter isolation. You are just one of so many, who are you to think of yourself as the centre of the universe. It is a very foolish thing to think so highly of yourself. And yet are we not all guilty of self obsession?

We build our lives around ourselves and judge others by our own standards and try to mold people to suit our needs. We search for a partner that will be most compatible to our lifestyle and who will placate our egos. Anything other than that is discarded without even seeing the soul inside. It makes me sick to think of it, and yet I am as guilty as the next person. We can label it any way we want but at the end of the day most peoples helpful criticism isn't always improving others they are merely trying to conform them to their own way of thinking.

Well what if I don't like your way of thinking? What if I feel as far removed from your opinion as the earth from the stars? Well that would make me contrary independent, selfish and stubborn.
I am contrary, independent, selfish and stubborn. These are not traits to be proud of and I have fought with them through my entire adult life. I am pleased to admit that I have mellowed from my more fiery youth and I do not jump to my feet when I hear an opinion that conflicts with my own. But I have also come to realise and accept that no matter how tempered I have become the roots remain true. But rather than chip away at my soul with your relentless pounding why not see the good?

I am contrary – I bring other options to the table that you might not have thought of otherwise, I keep the balance of ideas level.

I am independent – I do not impose on you for anything and will not be a burden but rather a shoulder should you need someone to lean on.

I am selfish – I am not a pushover and will not agree with whatever people say just to please others, as I do not feel the need to please everyone.

I am stubborn – I will follow things through, I will not give up on you.

The next time you encounter someone that pushes all the wrong buttons, just keep in mind that they most likely see you the same way. We are nothing but a speak of dust floating on the breeze. The man herding his goats in Bulgaria has a story a life and an opinion just as valued as yours. Try to look past the exterior and see their heart.

My heart is good.