Something profound happened to me the other day as I sat on the London District line, between Wimbletown and Earls Court.

I was swaying mildly with the trains momentum and idly watching the different variety of humans board and disembark, and thinking about the dinner conversation I had had with some friends the night before.
I had gone out to meet a old girlfriend from highschool and we had met up with one of her friends and spent the evening in a Lebanese restaurant talking about almost everything under the sun, but ultimately culminating in men and relationships.

We talked about the different experiences we have had and the current ones we were going through. I explained to the girl whom I had just met that I have been in my current relationship for 8 years. At first she was a bit shocked but then she said something that shocked me. She said “well I guess thats what we are all ultimately looking for”.

I had never thought about it that way before. And as I sat on the tube, I looked at everyone around me and wondered if that was what everyone was looking for, and what gave their life meaning. Is life simply a search for Mr or Mrs Right? If we find that person and settle down is that what its all about?

On some level I feel like screaming NOOOOOOOOOOO there is more to life then a string of relationships where we are constantly screening and eliminating those that we do not feel would fit our idea of lifetime partner material.

But I have a feeling I would be screaming in vain.

I have a feeling that she was right, that it is what life is all about and what we are, no matter how much we deny it, looking for.
We are looking for someone to love and to love us, and everything else is secondary, you might try to fool yourself sometimes and focus on your career or hobby or even just your friends. But deep down inside no matter how deep we bury it, no matter how many locks we put on that door, we know what really lies within us.

Happy hunting everyone, may you find your great catch!